The Truth About The Way We Look and Feel
What is wrong with the following statements?:
“I spend all my money on my kids — there’s nothing that I need or want.”
“I don’t care what I wear anymore and neither does anyone else.”
“My husband (or wife) couldn’t care less what I wear or how I look. He/She loves me for other, more important reasons.”
“I never go anywhere, so why make an effort?”
The problem with all of these statements is that they are all cover-ups. Lies that we tell ourselves when the real truth is hidden much too deep inside to deal with.
Why would a grown woman spend more money on a teenager’s wardrobe than her own? Because it’s easier to dress that teenager than to face the reality of her own body and her own imperfections.
Do you really think your spouse could care less how you look and how you dress? Doubtful. I have yet to meet the individual who doesn’t care about their significant other’s outward appearance. It doesn’t mean that her or she doesn’t love you for other reasons but attractiveness is important to every human — it’s our biology. Why? Because having good personal hygiene, caring about your outward appearance is a sign of someone who is more likely to be healthy inside, as well.
Your outside mirrors your inside. And whether or not you want to face this reality, you are telling something about yourself to the world everytime you walk out your front door.
Before I became a shopping consultant, I actually believed statements like the ones above to be fact. That woman who wears her sweat pants all day, everywhere she goes is so non-materialistic, or so I thought. She just has more important things on her mind than what she wears, or how her makeup looks, etc… What I have learned through the often painful stories that some of my clients and friends have shared with me is that this is rarely, if ever true.
The woman in her sweats is just unable to deal with the way she looks and to find clothes that are comfortable, stylish, practical and attractive. Isn’t it worse, she thinks to herself to look as if I made an effort and to fail than to not make any effort at all and at least appear as if I don’t care?? Not really.
Make an effort. Show that you care about yourself and how you look. Show your spouse, your boyfriend, girlfriend or even just your friends and family members that they are important to you. Taking care of yourself lets them know that the love and friendship that they give you makes you a happier, healthier human being.
It’s definitely okay to have fun dressing and caring for your children. But don’t mistake caring for them with forgoing caring for yourself. Your children will be appreciative, as well, when you take better care of yourself and show up at school and events looking put together, clean and neat.
And, contact me, Susie, for help. I truly understand the way you feel and I promise that shopping and working with me will help you feel better in so many ways.